Homemaking in the 20's: It's Not About the House

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If you asked me what my job is, I would say homemaker. It is my job to make our home all that it is, and it is a job I love and am so blessed to have. I've been a wife + homemaker for 4 years almost and it's taken me a while to figure out my style, my routines, and what I want our home to be. This is year I'm being very intentional about making our house a home, and making home a peaceful and welcoming sanctuary. I was inspired to start a series all about homemaking, and today that's what we are talking about!

If you are also a homemaker, I think it's important for all of us to have a foundation and a purpose when we dive into our homemaking duties. It is so so easy to get caught up in interior design, beautiful furniture, the most organized closets, and the most organic and whole recipes. Those things are important and it's okay to want to make your home aesthetically beautiful. However, homemaking is SO MUCH MORE. First you should take care of the environment of your home, and then move to the things of your home. Let's dive a little deeper.

Being a Homemaker is a Worthy Calling

In the 2020's, being a career woman/working mom is *almost* valued more than being a stay-at-home mom or housewife. The world has idolized breaking the glass ceiling and being an independent woman. There is NOTHING wrong if that is that path you've chosen! In the 2020's, though, let's make being a homemaker just as important as women's equality in the world. I feel like it has been implied over the years that if you are *just* a stay at home mom, you aren’t as intelligent, that you don’t contribute much to the household (and maybe that’s just my perception). I want this series to change that narrative. I want this series to remind all of us, whether you stay at home or work, that taking care of our home and our family is a valuable contribution.

Being a homemaker is a worthy calling. It is valuable to take care of your family. Every meal put on the table (take out or homemade) is valuable. Providing clean clothes, a clean home, a place for everything and everything in its place, that is a valuable contribution. If you are standing in the kitchen mopping the floor again, thinking “This is so mundane. Why does it matter if I mop the floor when it’s just going to be filthy again tomorrow?”, know that it’s still valuable. While I don’t know why we have to mop the floor again again other than it just makes sense to, I do know that making your home clean and clear, so that you have peace of mind, is valuable to your family.

It is valuable to stay home and raise your children. This is a privelage that I do not take for granted, as I know that not every household can afford to do this. I am not judging anyone who does not stay home with their kids, but I am bolstering those who do. It is a challenging job, a mundane one, a frustrating one, a never ending one. Especially when society has been built to make you feel that you aren’t enough because you walk around all day with babies at your feet while you try to vacuum the floor. It is valuable to raise your children. it is worth the sacrifice of having less income to be the one that is there. It is valuable to be the one who is there for every moment. To be the one to wipe the noses, to hear the giggles, to teach shapes and puzzles and colors. It is so valuable to be the one that takes time to instill morals and values into your child. It is valuable to raise your children.

It is valuable to be able to mold the environment you desire your family to live in. An environment focused on Christ, serving others, loving others. It is valuable to make Christ apart of your family’s everyday in whatever way you can.

Whether you work or stay at home, being a homemaker is still a worthy endeavor, one that should be taken seriously.

It’s not about the house

it can be so incredibly easy to get caught up in appearances. I’ve fallen prey to that many many times. As homemakers, I think we must must must remember that homemaking isn’t just about the house. It’s not just about the decor, the style, or the price of items. It is about so much more than that.

Yes, we all want nice homes. We want beautiful furniture, we want the newest, roomiest homes, and there isn’t anything wrong with it. What is more important than that, is working with what God has already given you. If you’ve chosen to stay home and not work, your budget is likely tight. What’s more important than what Our budget can buy is what we can grow and create in the homes we have, no matter the appearance or aesthetic.

More important than the latest Benjamin Moore paint color is creating a peaceful home. taking time to grow your relationship with your spouse so that you can model healthy conflict and open communication. It is important to ensure that when your children come home from a chaotic day in the world, they can feel a deep peace within your home. Peace because they know that they are loved, cherished, cared for, and listened to. Peace because they know Who is in control and who created them to be exactly who they are.

More important than growing your fiddle leaf fig so that you can share it on Instagram, is growing love. Loving your spouse well in all the ways they need it. Loving your children so they feel secure and confident. Loving others so that they see the love of Christ in you and seek more. Above all is the importance of loving God, of setting aside time no matter what your schedule looks like to open his word and pray over your family. This is what being a homemaker is all about.

More important than one of a kind art pieces, is decorating our homes with the truth of God‘s Word. Doing this by literally putting it on the wall, but also making it evident to all who come and go that they will know truth when they come to your home. That is what being a homemaker is all about

So when you are struggling against discontentment with the size of your home, it’s age, or renovations that have yet to be done, remember that the appearance of your home is not the most important thing to focus on. Making it feel peaceful, loving, safe, and speaking truth within its walls, that’s what we need to focus on.

Yes, in this series we will talk about organizing, renovation projects, styles, recipes, and all of that jazz. But the foundation is set on these things. It will remain more important to create a Holy Home than it is to create a pleasing aesthetic.

I hope and pray we can learn together along the way, be inspired, and be motivated. I hope to even have some more experienced guest writers share their wisdom with us sometime too!

Let’s strive for Holy Homemaking.