A Little Update

hey there hi there ho there!

Maybe you noticed, but you probably didn't, I haven't posted in a bit! I thought I would share a little explanation and an update moving forward.

First off, as you may know, I've been learning a lot about myself in regards to social media this year. I have more and more and more wanted to move away from using social media and posting on there. Essentially I got super caught up in numbers, views, trying to grow, and creating content. It has made me feel so unhappy, and ever since January I've been in the process of moving myself away and figuring out how much I want to use social media. If you didn't know, the way blogging works these days is that your main source of growth comes from Instagram and now Tiktok. If you want to blog, or even Youtube, you HAVE to be on Instagram and you have to have a following there to have a successful blog. It put so much pressure on me. After 4 years of trying pretty hard, I was still stagnant.

A couple weeks ago I was just done. I was done with trying to grow, trying to create content, and feeling bad when I didn't see any growth. I made my Instagram account private, I unfollowed 2/3 of the people I was following, I removed over 75% of my followers. I was just done. I immediately felt relief because there was no pressure to post, to "fit in" or to grow. I no longer have to talk about myself. I was feeling so selfish and sick of myself, vain and conceited as if my thoughts and opinions and life were important. My message was all about me. I was over being selfish. I had this urge to just be more private with my life and not let everyone in on the best parts of my life. So I let it go. Ah. I feel so much better.

Secondly, this desire to be more private and to stop "growing" my Instagram account, will directly affect my blog. Since my Instragram won't be growing, neither will my blog. And that's okay. I've been working to make Coffee with Kaydee something substantial for a solid four years and it hasn't moved. I think I'm done trying to reach for something that isn't in the cards for me. Maybe in the future, maybe not. I think I will feel so much better without this on my plate and feeling obligated to post here.

What does that mean? Well I'm not sure yet. For now, I think I will share a blog post twice a month and continue my monthly newsletter. I may go back to weekly posts later, I may go to one post a month. I am not sure and I'm not long putting pressure on myself to write here. If I feel like it, I will. I do enjoy writing here, I don't enjoy the pressure I was putting on myself. That's where this is at right now.

Thirdly, a major reason for this shift is because my passions and desires have shifted. I started my Instagram account @theunfoldingco and then I started my podcast. My dreams for those things were blooming and I had a desire to do even more and truly grow this ministry and put my heart into it. The Unfolding Co wasn't about me and I realized that was far better than trying to grow this space. I wanted to encourage women and pursue teaching people about Jesus through devotionals and my podcast and a different blog. In order to put my heart into The Unfolding Co and pursue a blog, a second bible study, a podcast, a different newsletter, I needed to let Coffee with Kaydee go. So I am.

I am going to put my heart into The Unfolding Co because I feel that's where the Lord is leading me. I am going to put my heart into building a different blog, creating good podcast episodes, and creating a newsletter that encourages, teaches, and touches women. I am going to pursue the Unfolding Co as a ministry and do all I can to glorify God in that.

I will keep you updated on all of the above. You can follow @theunfoldingco for now because I will definitely share everything there and more.

Thanks for supporting Coffee with Kaydee for as long as its been here. I am so thankful for that.